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The Power of Silence

By Jenn NguyenI am so inspired by the youth of today who raise their voices about gun control, anti-racism, and LGBTQ civil rights. Their voices are working to create positive change for the future. And their silence is also meant to create change. Friday, April 27th is the annual Day of Silence, which was initiated in 1996 by university students who pointed out the lack of support that was provided to LGBTQ students on campus. The Day of Silence is also meant to increase awareness of the harmful effects that bullying and harassment inflicts on LGBTQ students. Students voluntarily participate in Day of Silence by not speaking throughout the day in order to spotlight the erasure of LGBTQ people at school. Students then “break the silence” by communicating to their school administrator (whether it’s the day before, after, or through non-verbal communication) for LGBTQ-inclusive supports. Educators can also participate in Day of Silence by planning classroom activities to highlight these concerns.Coming to terms with your LGBTQ identity can be difficult if your community is unaccepting. It’s especially harmful if your peers use “gay” as a derogatory term and your school administrators prevent you from basic forms of self-expression. In fact, GLSEN’s 2015 National School Climate Survey reported that 98% of LGBTQ students have heard the term “gay” used as a derogatory term (i.e. “that’s so gay”) from their peers at school. Additionally, 22% of LGBTQ students were prevented from wearing clothes deemed inappropriate for their sex and 17% were discouraged from writing or discussing LGBTQ topics. Some school policies specifically target transgender students: 51% of transgender students were prevented from using their preferred name or pronoun, and 60% were required to use a bathroom or locker of their sex at birth rather than their preferred gender. When LGBTQ students experience bullying and harassment at school, the effects are detrimental. LGBTQ students have higher rates of depression, low self-esteem, low GPA, and are less motivated to pursue higher education than their straight peers. LGBTQ students who have experienced bullying and harassment because of their sexual orientation are three times more likely to have missed school in the past month. The Day of Silence encourages schools to provide better support and awareness for their LGBTQ students. Schools that have a Gay-Straight Alliance or Gender-Sexuality Alliance (GSA) or similar group are proven to promote visibility, safety, and acceptance to their LGBTQ peers. The groups also increase the likelihood of supportive school staff and accepting peers. The overall benefit is increased inclusivity and acceptance for the LGBTQ students.There are various ways you can get involved with Day of Silence activities. On Friday, April 27, follow #DayofSilence on social media to tune into the activity nationwide. If you’re a student, make sure that you are granted permission to participate by your school administrators. For more details and to register for Day of Silence, check out GLSEN’s website: https://www.glsen.org/day-silence. The fact that more states, such as Massachusetts and California, are starting to implement LGBTQ history into their curriculum is a huge milestone. I am hopeful and excited to see the power of silence help to raise more LGBTQ voices throughout the community.


Jenn Nguyen has been a member of SpeakOUT for over a year. Born and raised in Boston, she enjoys spending time with her partner, their rescue Ollie, and their 30-pound Maine coon cat, Junior.


Deciding Not to Be Who I Wasn’t

By Gabi MoynihanMarch 31st is Transgender Day of Visibility (TDOV), a time to celebrate transgender lives and to honor the resilience and strength of those who led the way to create space for transgender people within the LGBTQ movement. Gabi Moynihan, an active speaker with SpeakOUT, shares her own journey to living her true self and her commitment to supporting others in their quest. A little over two years ago, the term transgender started being more widely known to me, even with a celebrity name or two identifying that way. Too bad I could never do that. Fear again. I was a volcano ready to erupt. Suicide wards were becoming commonplace, my mind a blur. I found a friend who I felt I could say anything to. I knew I had to share my true existence. Finally, January 19, 2016, at 59 years, 7 months and 20 days old, I shared who I was with her. I finally understood the term "weight of the world off my shoulders." I didn't think anything would come of it, but I laugh at that thought now.First, the pierced ears, then a little mascara. No, I need to introduce Gabi to the world. I had told a few people but on February 25 I shared it on Facebook. Wow, still don't know what was more emotional, writing it or reading the hundreds of supportive replies that followed. I had to move forward. I learned a little about makeup and dressing well for a 60ish woman. I attended the Transgender Flag Raising at Boston City Hall. I'm pretty much all in now. I went to the ceremonial signing of the Public Accommodations Bill on the steps of the Massachusetts State House in the summer of 2016 in a dress and heels. OK, really all in now.I knew I could never go back to pretending. I took off on the greatest ride of my life. Massachusetts Transgender Political Coalition, Gender Soup, attending and marching in my first Pride Parade. Joining SpeakOUT. I had a lifelong fear (that word again) of public speaking and now I could share who I was and how I got there with groups of people and maybe make a little difference by educating others. I live a life I am proud of today.A doctor asked if I had regrets I was not born a woman rather than a transgender woman. Maybe a few. Maybe I missed a lot of struggles, but they should've been my struggles. I am proud to be a transgender woman. To be accepted as I am for who I am. Not tolerated, accepted.Transgender Day of Visibility. It is a day to reflect on my own journey and to appreciate the efforts and courage shown by so many before me. To be here. To be of help to someone with similar feelings and to help cisgender people understand the transgender experience better.I never decided I wanted to become a woman. Thankfully I decided not to be who I wasn't and be truthful with myself. I like who I am today. Finally. Yeah, it's a pretty good day.